Indeed, the quality of your Life depends on the quality of your relationship. Therefore, the people with the best connections live longer than those who struggle in their relationships. Sadly, the people having turmoil in their relationships die earlier. It is because our body always sends signals and must listen to our feelings.
So why are we holding on to this relationship?
There are many reasons, and I am not here to tell you how to manage your Life, however, be aware and take the necessary steps to improve the quality of your relationship. Sometimes frequency does not match, so let's stop pretending around them; it takes much energy to be someone else to please others.
We may love the wrong person and cry for the wrong reason. But one thing is sure mistakes help us find the right person.
Identify the relationships that drain you and spend less time around them, and the ones that make you feel better, encourage you, energize you find a way to be more around them.
"The more we say yes, the more complex Life gets." – Jack Butcher
Let go of the relationships draining you and replace them with healthy ones that energize you.
Joyce Meyer, in her book, Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone, explains that the need for approval stems from insecurity, which is often the product of some form of abuse - physical, verbal or emotional.
This approval addiction is fueled by unhealthy emotions: guilt, shame, and anger. None of these emotions is a healthy foundation for creating relationships with yourself or other people. If you want to live a life of purpose, you'll need to let go of your need for approval and be willing to follow your gut.
Let's Choose us over them.
Let's Choose boredom over ambivalence.
Let's choose loneliness over noise.
Let's stop holding onto people just because we have a history together. Don't get stuck there. It drains your energy, so make space to create the Life you want. John Lennon once said, "Trying to please everybody is impossible - if you did that, you'd end up in the middle with nobody liking you. So you've got to decide what you think is best and do it."
Accept that Life is a lonely journey that you must travel alone. Some people will escort you only so far, but not further than they can see. That's all on you. You need to unconditionally support yourself in this endeavour, especially if you face obstacles and self-disappointment. Embrace the good, the bad, and the painful, the past and the present. I know that it is a challenging task. However, it is possible. History is full of hopeful men and women who overcame tremendous obstacles and desperate men and women who had no hope. Which one would you be?
Your energy is currency. Spend it well. Invest it wisely.
If you have emotional problems but never spend time alone self-reflecting, you are not trying to fix them.
"The moderation of happy people arises from the calm that good fortune bestows upon their temper." - François de La Rochefoucauld.
Best wishes, my friend.
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