Lessons of Self-Awareness I learned from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
Lesson #3: The Path To Success Requires Failure & Pain
Our fear of failure comes when we are exposed to constant comparison during our school years, where we are judged & punished based on our academic performance by our parents and teachers.
Sometimes overbearing & critical parents do not let their kids scratch their knees and learn to walk independently by making mistakes. And robs the kids of having their own share of experiences and mistakes. And later in life, when they are confronted with failure or rejection in life, they don’t know how to handle it.
“We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail then we’re unwilling to succeed.” — Mark Manson
The fear comes from choosing values that involve tangible external goals outside of our control rather than choosing process-oriented values. If you measure your self-worth by seeing how many people like me, then you are subjecting yourself to misery because your failure is 100% defined by the action or reactions of others.
The same thing goes with pain. Our human brain is wired to avoid pain at all costs. It chooses a path of least resistance. But pain is an integral part of growth, Discovering yourself is a painful process. To deny the pain is to deny our own potential.
Just as we go through physical pain to build strength and endurance, Emotional pain is required to build emotional resilience and endurance.
“Your real resume is just a catalogue of all your suffering. If I ask you to describe your real life to yourself, and you look back from your deathbed at the interesting things you’ve done, it’s all going to be around the sacrifices you made, the hard things you did.” — Naval Ravikant
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Best Wishes,
Annie@Calendarmind
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