We are not perfect parents. However, we are the creator of the child, and we must lead by example.
BETTER PARENTS: Specific TECHNIQUE ON HOW TO Build Confidence and Self-esteem into your children
"LOVE is spell TIME with children."
Spend time alone with them to understand them. Let them know that they are important. Talk about how they feel and listen to them.
“The number 1 problem in troubled teens is that nobody takes the time to listen to them and takes them seriously.”
- Give them unconditional love (I love you)
- Accepting their feelings (and for who they TRULY are)
- “Teddy bear talk” each family has his time to talk with no interruptions (the one who has the teddy bear)
- Ask questions: How do you feel right now? Is there anything you need help with from me? What are you afraid of? What are you want to be when you grow up? What is your biggest challenge? What is the biggest challenge you currently facing? If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?
- Cuddle your kids, hold them, and touch them every day.
Transmit love and support:
- Verbally" Saying it" means telling them
- Physical touch
- Visual: show them
- Make a special box (their special box with things they earn and accomplish to keep)
- “The three pictures”: Take three photographs of your child and post them on a family board: one of them doing something that makes him happy; the second is where your child is doing something very well, and one is your happy family picture.
- Develop the struggle muscle: let them do what they can by themselves.
- Set realistic standards (attainable)
- Focus on their positive success: they need frequent feedback when they do things right.
- Do not use negative sentences.
- positively set your expectations.
- Practice no matter what you say or do to me; you are still worthwhile.
- Give feedback about their behaviour and not about the child. (It is a huge difference)
- Be specific in your praise.
- Positive reinforcement
- Give them options
- Give them choices: choices build high self-esteem
- LEARN TO YOUR KIDS HOW TO SET GOALS and VISUALIZE THEM.
Best Wishes
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